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Rundy Purdy speaking

Rundy Purdy, author of The Sea is Wide: A Memoir of Caregiving is an experienced caregiver and gifted speaker. With compassion and gentleness, he touches audiences by sharing his journey of hope through hard experiences. In his presentation he leads caregivers and their families through the often emotional and difficult subject of caregiving to bring out a fresh perspective. If you are interested in having him share his experience of caregiving along with a message of encouragement, perseverance, and love, then please go to: http://caregivingreality.com/speaking/

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Front Cover for The Sea is Wide: A Memoir of Caregiving

Special sale!

The holiday season is upon us, and here at Caregiving Reality we are trying something new. We are doing a book sale–of author signed paperback copies! The books are at a discount price, and the more copies you buy the better your discount.

Would you like to get The Sea is Wide: A Memoir of Caregiving at 10%, 20%, 30% or even 40% off? Head on over to the sale page and take a look and what deal will best suit you: http://caregivingreality.com/december-2015-sale/

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Did you know I send out a monthly newsletter? It is an easy and convenient way to keep up to date on what is going on with the website, my writing, and my speaking events. Today I just sent out the November newsletter. If you are not signed up to receive the newsletter, you can still read it here: http://eepurl.com/bH1lE5

And you can sign up to receive the newsletter in your email inbox anytime!

 

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Photo credit: Daniel

Photo credit: Daniel

Note: This article is addressing the issue of driving and a person with dementia. The issue of if (or when) an elderly person should stop driving because of other health issues is important, but is beyond the scope of this article.

For every person suffering with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia there comes a time when they should no longer drive. In an ideal world these people would realize their need to stop driving, and willingly give up the car keys. Unfortunately, we are not living in an ideal world–we are living right here on planet Earth with all of its warts and problems. This means many people suffering with dementia do not agreeably give up their car keys. This can be a huge problem for caregivers. You may currently face this struggle, or you might see it looming in your future.

I have seen this struggle. Everyone’s personal journey with the issue of driving is different, but today I am going to share from my experience and offer my opinion on how we can help address it.

First, we need to be aware–not only as individuals but also as a community and a culture–that addressing this issue of driving should begin long before anyone is sick. For this problem to be address rightly, it should be a part of cultural conversation. How long should people be allowed to drive as they advance into illness? Should there be an age limit? Should there be mandated testing for health impairment beyond a certain age? Past what point in health deterioration should someone no longer be allowed to drive? These are thorny issues which don’t have easy answers for universal social agreement. But the issue needs to be openly addressed as a culture, frankly and without shame. This aids in the formation of a groundwork for discussing the issue of driving frankly and without shame within the family context.

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Greene NY Speaking EventAre you in the Western Pennsylvania area, or do you have friends or family in that area? I will be talking about Alzheimer’s, caregiving, and caregiving support at three locations on the 15th and 16th of October. (That’s Thursday and Friday of this week.) All three events are free and open to the public so if you or anyone you know could use some encouragement or education in dealing with Alzheimer’s, take note of these three events:

 

  • October 15th, 2015. Time: 1:30-3:00PM. Place: Cory Public Library, 117 W Washington St, Corry, PA 16407 (814) 664-7611
  • October 15th, 2015. Time: 6:30-8:00PM. Place: Clarion Free Library, 644 Main St, Clarion, PA 16214 (814) 226-7172
  • October 16th, 2016. Time: 6:00-8:00PM. Place: Grove City Community Library 125 W Main St Grove City, PA 16127 (724) 458-7320

 

I hope to see you there!

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I currently have a Goodreads give away going on. You need to be a Goodreads member to participate. If you are and would like a free copy of The Sea is Wide to read and review, head on over here: https://www.goodreads.com/giveaway/show/156257-the-sea-is-wide-a-memoir-of-caregiving

Good luck!

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Broken Things

Credit: Jenny Hudson

We like to think about happy things, but sometimes as caregivers we must face harder issues. Today I want to talk with you about the things we cannot fix, and why it is important to face those difficult situations.

When we become caregivers we become fixers. If you are caring for children you fix their problems of the day, big and small. Need help with shoes? Fix that. Scrapped your knee? Fix that. Food, comfort, health–as caregivers we seek to fix every problem that comes up, needs we can answer. It is the same if we are caring for an older sick loved one, except now the problems are often more serious–we are often dealing with potentially life threatening illnesses.

The life of a caregiver can be a very difficult, but rewarding. In what we do we fulfill real needs, resolve serious problems, and greatly improve the lives of others. Caregiving is important. Fixing the problems of those in our care is important. As caregivers we become very good at fixing those problems, and we want to fix every problem.

But we cannot fix every problem. There are some broken things we cannot fix, and that is important to remember […]

For the rest of the article go to: http://caregivingreality.com/articles/the-broken-we-cannot-fix/

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Sadness Weighs Down

credit: Yogesh Mhatre

Emotions are powerful things. They can make us feel like we are on the highest of heights, or the deepest of depths. I have walked those paths. I have felt darkness, aloneness, and grief that rose like a monstrous wave to consume me. I have felt like a weak pathetic thing abused and tossed about by my own emotions.

If you haven’t yet, you will feel those things too. One day. Probably one day soon. Read the rest of this article here: http://caregivingreality.com/articles/when-emotions-weigh-us-down/

 

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On Wednesday August 19th I was in Titusville PA and stopped by at the studio for The Morning Drill and sat down for a great interview. If you didn’t have the opportunity to watch it live, you can still see it now.

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There is a short write-up of my book over on Syracuse.com. Excerpt:

“The Sea is Wide: A Memoir of Caregiving” is a chronological account of the three years Purdy spent caring from his grandfather. He weaves light moments with sad, he said, for a bittersweet story with a hopeful theme: “While there is great loss in Alzheimer’s, we also can gain things through the experience,” he said.

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A quick reminder to western Pennsylvania readers, I have three events in your area next week:

It is free to attend and all are welcome!

If you are not in that part of the country you can still watch online an interview I have scheduled with The Morning Drill in Titusville PA. I will be coming on at 8AM on Wednesday August 19th. Link here: http://www.streamnewsnow.com/index.php/2013-01-02-07-55-37

Tune in and share it with your friends!

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